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This I just could not resist sharing. So now, with all you pathetic pinky penis boys, there is hope for protection that might actually fit. It will probably be a bit loose on most of you, but it’s better than nothing! LMAO!

My thanks to Jessi, for bringing this to me. Good Girl! It will now sit with the Goliath condom in the Rubbers Hall of Fame.

Toe suckle… My latest pedicure was phenomenal. Found a new place to pamper myself and spend your money.

Don’t those red toenails just make you want to suck them like a ripe cherry?

This was a conversation that sparked from my previous post “Men Need Control” while in my chat room here. I enjoy these types of conversations.

October 14, 2009

Morg: Could well be. Something I’ll have to check
Morg: So, I’m curious. I had a read through your various..hmm..I want to say ramblings but that has too many negative connotations, and articles is too formal. Posts will do if not ideal. Anyhow, read through your various posts and I am curious about a few points. Providing you dont mind a wee bit moment of 20 questions.
~MistressAna LOL
~Mistress Ana: doesn’t mean I’ll answer all of them
~Mistress Ana: but fire away
Morg: *laughs* A very valid point. Do you believe that all men have an urge to be controlled ?
~Mistress Ana: yes, many don’t even realize it
~Mistress Ana: and because of society’s pressure on them, they repress it
Morg: Interesting. Its a very general statement, and for that reason I shy away from agreeing with it. However, I am intruiged, why do you think all men have an urge to be controlled ?
~Mistress Ana: urge to be controlled by a strong woman…
~Mistress Ana: not overall control by anyone
Morg: Do you consider women superior to men ?
~Mistress Ana: yes
~Mistress Ana: however, both sexes have their share of idiots
~Mistress Ana: there are women who should have no part in controlling anybody
~Mistress Ana: damned loons
~Mistress Ana: make a bad name for us all
Morg: Well, that goes without saying. Personaly I blame warning labels. When society got to a point that our members were moronic enough to require warning labels about nut content on a bag of nuts..well..yes
Morg: Natural selection was destroyed from that day on
~Mistress Ana: LMAO
Morg: A valid point about the Damned loons. On both sides of the gender.
~Mistress Ana: the gene pool needs a severe douching
Morg: Although, I’ve met more men who shouldn’t be dominating someone than I have women. *smirks* ALthough, if I hold your view point it could be argued no men should be domming.
Morg: (and then there’s people who really shouldn’t be subs)
Morg: I think a large part of it can be established by finding out why someone is Dominant. So, that leads me neatly onto my next question. Why are you Dominant. What does it mean to you.
~Mistress Ana: I am always ending up in control of situations
~Mistress Ana: since I was young, relationships, not just romantic ones, etc
~Mistress Ana: even with my parents and family
~Mistress Ana: work, friendships
~Mistress Ana: in business it is an advantage
~Mistress Ana: in my late 20s, I began to dissect the human psyche
~Mistress Ana: observe people closer, just watch them and listen to them speak
~Mistress Ana: the more you watch, the more you learn, the more you learn what makes them tick, the easier it is to control them
~Mistress Ana: even when it was not my intention, my relationships in general always ended up with me “in control”
Morg: Well, most people can be very easily manipulated. Despite the strange and fascinating variety of human individuality. We do tend to be horribly predictable when it comes to how we interact with others.
~Mistress Ana: some are are predictable
~Mistress Ana: not all
* MistressAna smiles
~Mistress Ana: some are more difficult than others
Morg: *laughs* A generalisation, there are exceptions, as with most things in life
~Mistress Ana: I say the minority are predictable, let me clarify that
~Mistress Ana: individual personalities are so diverse in nature
Morg: Hm. Interesting. A view point I partialy agree with. It does fit with the statement I was going to make that alot of the predicition is easier to do in group situations as the personalities seem to often normalise.
~Mistress Ana: and what tweaks to extreme is unique, breaking through the outter shell that many have from previousl relationships, for example
~Mistress Ana: especially in the realm of BDSM
~Mistress Ana: have met many people that have had negative experiences and left scarred
~Mistress Ana: sucks
~Mistress Ana: so they put up a barrier , emotional protection
~Mistress Ana: they know they crave the control but that flashing red light in the back of their mind is going ballistic
Morg: Quite. A friend of mine, very dear to me, was quite badly damaged when she was 16 by a man who shouldn’t have been in control of his own eating habbits, let alone another person. Its taking time but I’m getting her to open up again, its just..hmm..disgusting in some ways how much damage people will do so carelessly.
~Mistress Ana: the internet is a big curse in many ways in relation to that
~Mistress Ana: any joe blow gets online and starts spewing crap to the world
~Mistress Ana: problem is, so many people are ignorant enough to believe just about anything they read online
~Mistress Ana: and then run with it
Morg: Mm. Then yo uadd into that people who are craving control and will run with the first person who seems to offer it.
~Mistress Ana: I have tried for years to educate as many as I can
~Mistress Ana: yes, that too
~Mistress Ana: desperation
~Mistress Ana: and with the way society has this lifestyle shoved in the closet
~Mistress Ana: people get more desperate
Morg: They do. We have an odd situation in the UK at the moment.
~Mistress Ana: and claw for any type of release without caution
~Mistress Ana: oh?
Morg: Socialy, people are very accepting of BDSM in most parts of the country. Very accepting. There’s an almost universal undcurrent
Morg: Legaly though, a prudish government is doing their best to effectively outlaw large parts of it
Morg: A nanny state in many ways which believes that two conenting adults dont know enough to care for themselves.
~Mistress Ana: thats’ bull
~Mistress Ana: I did notice in the European Union the difference, big time, between there and the states
~Mistress Ana: just in public apparel alone
~Mistress Ana: (I loved it over there)
Morg: Well, if you do visit the UK at some point, I imagine you will find it quite intruiging.
Morg: London in paticuler
Morg: While I hate it. The BDSM community there is amazing.
Morg: Especialy if you enjoy the club scene.
~Mistress Ana: we only stopped through it but still intriguing
~Mistress Ana: loved what I saw, except Belgium
~Mistress Ana: those folks were snots
* MistressAna laughs
Morg: At the same time. Causing someones rump to bleed , even slightly, from the use of a cane, can get you arrested. While rare it did happen once when a doctor highlighted it to the police. And taking a photo of it is an exceptional nono.
Morg: Which is absurd, taking an image of a consensual practice , and in most cases legal practice, ils illega.
Morg: And yes, I can’t stand belgim, Holland is much more fun, especialy once you get out of the tourist centers.
* MistressAna nods
~Mistress Ana: RACK
~Mistress Ana: Risk Aware Consensual Kink
~Mistress Ana: period.
~Mistress Ana: they both know
~Mistress Ana: they both enter into it with knowledge and agreement
~Mistress Ana: charges should have to be pressed by one party or the other for the law to enter into it
Morg: Quite.
~Mistress Ana: problem is, spousal abuse could be construed in there
Morg: And even then it should be approached carefully.
~Mistress Ana: especially with a wife who is scare shitless of her husband in a vanilla relationship
~Mistress Ana: but society doesn’t understand our culture in BDSM
~Mistress Ana: they judge us on the moral majority’s culture, etc
~Mistress Ana: so in that vein, it appears as abuse
Morg: I think thats what fascinates me with the UK. THe majority are quite accepting of BDSM.
Morg: Yet, the law is getting so extreme
~Mistress Ana: where in our culture, we educate ourselves and perform it aware and consensual
Morg: Mm. No accidental harm.
Morg: Which is a statement that doesnt quite cover the exact definition of both sides being consensual, but, it is quite important
~Mistress Ana: accidents can happen
~Mistress Ana: just as in any play
~Mistress Ana: however, being educated and learned in delivery of the play is essential
Morg: They can, and they do. However. The fact accidents can happen almost seems to be used as an excuse by a few of the dominant personalities who really shouldn’t be domming, to justify their own lack of knowledge and care
~Mistress Ana: agreed
~Mistress Ana: they learn this shit on second life and then proclaim themselves to be a dominant by throwing on some kink clothes and yelling
* MistressAna shakes her head
~Mistress Ana: it disgusts me
~Mistress Ana: I only used second life as an example, so many areas it occurs
Morg: Oh *laughs* Second life, I had wondered if that woudl be bought up.
Morg: And yes, you are right, it is not exclusive to second life.
~Mistress Ana: Second Life is for people who have no First Life.
Morg: Back to an early query. What about women is it that makes them superior to men, in your opinion ?
~Mistress Ana: the way they are able to handle life in a multitasking manner
Morg: Hm, interesting.
~Mistress Ana: men tend to have a one track mind and I don’t mean sexually
Morg: Oh, I wouldn’t have assumed that was what you meant. I am curious though, can you expand on the statement any more ?
~Mistress Ana: men tend to handle one thing at a time, they aren’t good with balancing many emotional aspects at once
~Mistress Ana: women can balance out the spectrum, granted, not all of them exercise this gift… they are the fools
~Mistress Ana: imo
~Mistress Ana: and I don’t claim to be a PhD in human psychology, just years of observance and experience
Morg: Ha, I know plenty of people with PhD’s in such things. If I was interested in there views on it I’d be asking them. It is an interesting point, Do you think men are incapable of it or is it something they are just unaware of ?
~Mistress Ana: I think it’s something repressed, maybe because of upbringing, environment from childhood, society pressures
~Mistress Ana: difficult to say without extensive research
Morg: Do you think there are any good points to that seeminly inherent weakness in men ?
~Mistress Ana: yes, there is
~Mistress Ana: focus on only one thing at a time has many advantages
~Mistress Ana: let’s take a soldier for instance
~Mistress Ana: he’s not going to have a million thoughts running through his mind if he is focused on the enemy and a mission goal
~Mistress Ana: where a woman in that position may have a million different thoughts running at the same time
~Mistress Ana: not very good in that situation
Morg: *smirks*You make men sound so simple minded
~Mistress Ana: however, as officers, women are very efficient
~Mistress Ana: “imple minded”isn’t always bad
~Mistress Ana: simple minded even
Morg: I’d imagine not, its a view I find quite fascinating though.
Morg: From a personal perspective. I completely disagree with you while also agreeing with your observations. Which is a fun little mind game to work on.
~Mistress Ana: of course you would
* MistressAna chuckles
Morg: *smirks* Quite.
Morg: Which brings up the interesting question for myself, of how much I disagree with from a knee jerk reaction, and how much of it I can actualy construct reasonable arguements against.
Morg: And is fascinating to see which elements of myh own personality I clutch onto as I consider the possible arguements. IT will clearly be something I@ll need to give osme thought when not drugged up codiene. However, its amusing to see what matters to me as ‘important’ when it comes to my own personal interpretation on what it is to be male.
Morg: And, more interestingly, how much of it has nothing to do with being male and is gender neutral.
~Mistress Ana: one can say it is gender neutral but
~Mistress Ana: I’m speaking from my experiences and observations
~Mistress Ana: I worked 15 years in a majority male environment, 98% male
Morg: Oh, I was more commenting on how many of my arguements against your statements were gender neutral, and, invalid in many ways because of that
* MistressAna nods
Morg: A moment of self reflection and amusement at my own internal thought process
~Mistress Ana: was just letting you know a bit of where this came from
Morg: Ah. Very well.
Morg: The multitasking one you mentioned is the one in paticulre I find interesting
Morg: As you are, for the most part. Completely right. My only arguement against is null and void. The arguement being more about the odd exception and ability to appear to multitask. Whether it is true multitasking I’m not convinced on.
Morg: And, the thought process following on from that is quite simple. How much of my arguement is dependant on my own view of exceptionalism. Realisticaly, the majority of it is. Which is rather bothersome as it means I cant really hold a debate with you about the issue.
Morg: So, to move on while I mull that over. Do you enjoy your work.
~Mistress Ana: which work?
~Mistress Ana: I own a horse ranch, own a corporation, run a commune, dominatrix, handle admin on a few websites and occasionally relax
Morg: *laughs* Well, before that I only new about your Dominatrix work. So, that was what the question was aimed at.
~Mistress Ana: yes, I do, majority of the time
~Mistress Ana: it has it’s moments
~Mistress Ana: but all in all, I do enjoy it